
There are many reasons for the lack of vocations to the priesthood and religious life. The requirement of celibacy, lack of parental encouragement, secularism and the image of the priesthood today are just a few. No doubt it is not an easy time to be a priest or religious. For a while now, the Catholic church has been appearing regularly on the news and on social media. This publicity has not presented an enticing view of the priesthood or religious life. In fact, directly the opposite is happening. The sinfulness of the Church has been front and center for quite a while.
One thing is clear in my mind. God has not stopped calling young men and women to consider the religious life. The call is there. But, because of the culture we live in and the present environment in the Church, this call is many times not heard, ignored or rejected. While I understand this reaction, it is sad.
In this blog I would like to address two questions. First, why would anyone in his or her right mind choose to be a priest or religious given the current climate in the Church and society? Second, what can we do to support the priests and religious who faithfully serve the church and God’s people in this environment?
In order to answer the first question as to why anyone would even think about being a priest or religious, we must accept the reality that God calls each person to a unique vocation in life. Our vocation is much more than just our state of life – married, single, priest or religious. It entails all that we are – our occupation, our ministry in the church and our lifestyle to name a few. Our vocation is based on the reality that each of us (all God’s people) have been “gifted” by God with gifts, talents and skills that God gives to us to build up the Kingdom of God. Never should we or someone else deny the vocation of ourselves or another person. It is a gift from God.
As St Paul reminds us: “There are different kinds of spiritual gifts but the same Spirit; there are different forms of service but the same Lord; there are different workings but the same God who produces all of them in everyone. To each individual the manifestation of the Spirit is given for some benefit. To one is given through the Spirit the expression of wisdom; to another the expression of knowledge according to the same Spirit; to another faith by the same Spirit; to another gifts of healing by the one Spirit; to another mighty deeds; to another prophecy; to another discernment of spirits; to another varieties of tongues; to another interpretation of tongues. But one and the same Spirit produces all of these, distributing them individually to each person as he wishes.” (1 Cor. 12: 4-11)
Our mission as those who claim to be followers of Jesus is to discern God’s will and follow it. This is not easy and requires time in prayer. We are never too young to begin this discernment since God speaks to us, directs us throughout our lives if we allow him. What is discernment? I like the definition of Fr Ernest Larkin, O.Carm. (RIP) who said that discernment is “Telling from within your own experience where God is and where God is not in your life”. It doesn’t have to be made more complicated than that! It involves putting our will (what we want to do with our lives) aside and letting God’s will grow in our hearts and souls. This is a lifelong task.
The culture we live in makes this discernment quite difficult for those considering the religious life or the priesthood. The “one holy catholic and apostolic church” now seems more like the “one, holy, sinful, catholic and apostolic church”. The sinfulness of the church was always there. But the sinfulness of the church has been front and center more recently. At the same time, we live in a culture that promotes as good the direct opposite of what Christianity and the priesthood and religious life is all about. Our culture promotes individualism, hedonism and minimalism as Matthew Kelly points out in Rediscover Catholicism. Yet, Jesus never asked what is in it for me? He was not governed by individualism. Jesus did not proclaim a deification of pleasure (hedonism). He proclaimed a life of self-denial. Finally, Jesus did not ask: What is the least I can do! He asked: What is the most I can do!
I entered the minor seminary of the Carmelites when I was 14 years old in 1972. Things were different back then. Priests and religious were not viewed with suspicion as they are today. In fact, they were sort of put on a pedestal. I thought it would be “cool” to be a priest. Parents did not always encourage their sons and daughters to consider the religious life and priesthood. But, they did not discourage it either. My parents treated me as they did my four sisters and bother. They let us choose our occupations and “vocation”. There were also many entering the religious life and priesthood. There were 54 of us that started freshman year at St Alberts Jr. Seminary. By the time I graduated High School there were nine of us left. Today I am the only one still a Carmelite.
Today those hearing God’s call and discerning a vocation to the priesthood and religious life are much older (thank God) and are doing so at a difficult time. They need our prayers. So, why should anyone choose to be a priest or religious today given the present climate and culture?
Simple answer: Because it is all about God’s call to us! As we go through life, whether lay person, religious or priest, we have a responsibility to discern where God is calling us. We can decide to follow our own will, or we can decide to follow God’s will. Sometimes they are the same.
However, if we follow our own will, our own desires, we will inevitably reach a point in life when we will feel an emptiness because what we are doing has no meaning. It is not in conformity with God’s plan for us.
I was the vocation director for the Carmelites for several years and I met many young adults who came to a point in their lives where they realized their lives had no meaning. Some had successful careers and were making good money. Yet, there was an emptiness that they soon realized was there because God was calling them to the religious life or priesthood. Many times, it was too late to consider the religious life.
My experience as a Vocation Director reinforced for me one unique quality of God’s call to us. God is persistent! If we are not doing God’s will in our lives sooner or later, we will realize it! God does not give up! So, the climate and times may be difficult to consider the religious life or priesthood. But, anyone out there who may feel God is calling them, don’t let God go to voicemail or put God on your blocked call list! Sooner or later the call will get through and it may be too late for you to respond!
Another reason to choose the religious life or priesthood if this is where God is calling you is because you will find happiness, you will find support, you will be building up the Kingdom of God along with many other wonderful lay people. Looking back, I certainly do not claim I had a vocation at 14 when I entered the minor seminary! I was an altar boy in my hometown parish and my family was Catholic. I went to St Alberts Jr Seminary because it was crowded at home and four of my classmates and friends from elementary school were going there not to mention the fact that I was not accepted into the two local Catholic High schools I applied to! God works and calls in strange ways! And, God takes the little we offer and uses it to build his Kingdom!
In my years of formation my vocation grew on me. I spent 15 years in formation, four of them studying theology. The Carmelites grew on me. I learned what it meant to be a priest and Carmelite along the way. Yet, to be perfectly honest, I learned more about what it means to be a priest and Carmelite from the people I ministered with in the parishes where I served and in my other ministries than in all my years of formation and studying theology. It is the people of God that makes me the Carmelite and priest I am today. Theology and formation is good and needed. But, discerning our vocation and doing God’s will is discovered by ministering with God’s people and it does not stop there. It is a lifelong process.
Looking back, I have been professed a Carmelite for 37 years, ordained 32 years. I can honestly say that I do not regret one vocation decision I made along the way. Yes, there have been sacrifices and sometimes I wish I had kids of my own. But I know this is where God called me to be. And, despite the tough cultural times and difficulties in the church right now, it is still where I am called to be.
Now for the second question. What can we do to support the priests and religious who faithfully serve the church and God’s people? These are difficult times and clergy and religious need the support of each other and of the laity. Priests and religious are under attack and some are struggling. What can you do? I offer the following six suggestions. There are plenty more, but these will do for now.
First, don’t put a priest or a religious on a pedestal! I repeat because it is important. Don’t put a priest or religious on a pedestal! In other words, don’t believe or behave as if the priest or religious is perfect, extraordinarily wonderful, or better than others, to the extent that you are unable to see them with all their potential flaws or faults. This can feed their narcissism if they are inclined to be a narcissist.
Putting them on a pedestal also feeds what I call the scourge of clericalism. Clericalism begins as a disordered attitude toward clergy by laypeople. It is an excessive deference and an assumption that they are morally superior. Clericalism then leads to a priest feeling and believing they are superior, far from the people and the contributions of lay people to the life of the Church are only second-rate. It is the attitude that “Father knows best”. This attitude and the scourge of clericalism is the root of many of the problems in the priesthood today.
Putting them on a pedestal also leads to loneliness. Priests and religious need to relate to lay people in a healthy way. This cannot be done if they are not perceived as equal. Priests and religious need healthy relationships, not dysfunctional ones.
Second, Be realistic in your expectations. Because of the shortage of priests many are overworked. For the past five months I have been ministering in Trinidad and most weekends I have done four or five masses many times in more than one parish. While the shortage in the United States is not as bad, priests are still overworked and sometimes parishioners have unrealistic expectations of their parish priests.
Sometimes a priest is good,
but this is overshadowed by our expectations of wanting our priests to be
perfect. Never let the perfect become
the enemy of the good! We
think the perfect priest preaches no more than ten minutes. He condemns sins but never upsets anyone. He works from 8:00 AM until midnight and is
also a janitor. He makes $75 a week,
wears good clothes, buys good books and gives about $75 weekly to the poor. He is 28 years old and has preached 30 years. He has
a burning desire to work with teenagers and spends all of his time with senior
citizens.
The perfect priest smiles all the time with a
straight face because he has a sense of humor that keeps him seriously
dedicated to his work. He makes 15 calls
daily on parish families, shut-ins and the hospitalized, and is always in his
office when needed.
All joking aside, I think you get the point. Be realistic in your expectations!
Third, offer to help them. I have sat in on numerous parish council meetings, numerous committees and worked with planning groups. I have been the provincial of my religious order which involved many meetings. Many good ideas get shared. Inevitably the question at the end is: Who is going to do it?
The church is at its best and functions best when the clergy and religious cooperate with the lay people in making things happen. As noted above, God has given each person particular skills and gifts to build up the Kingdom of God. Each of us has a responsibility to use our God-given talents to support the mission of our parish and the church. Whether it is doing the sacristy laundry, setting up tables for a parish function, cleaning up afterwards, seeing to it that things are set up for mass or making sure a homebound, lonely person is visited, we all can do things to support the priests and religious who work with us.
Fourth, avoid gossip. Priests and religious are public ministers. What they say and what they do is always under scrutiny especially in todays climate. Nothing is more destructive than gossip among people. Instead of gossiping or criticizing, offer to help and to build up. I wonder how many vocations were ruined when young people hear adults tear down the priest or religious, usually because of some petty dispute?
Fifth, be honest. Sometimes people are hesitant to challenge a priest or religious when they recognize he or she has done something wrong or is making a poor decision. If we learn anything from the present problems in the church it is that we must be honest with our leaders. Like all people we need to be honest with them and out of care and concern point out to them what we see as possible failings.
At the same time, being honest means saying the truth. On more than one occasion I have had a person come up to me after mass while I am greeting people and say: “Hey Father, great homily” even though the deacon preached at mass! Clergy and religious do not need “yes men or women”. Being true and honest to them is important.
Sixth and finally, pray for them. Our prayer can be a sign of support and encouragement for all the priests and religious who faithfully serve the church in these troubled times. Our prayers can keep all aware of the gift of the priesthood and religious life to the church.
In conclusion, this may be a difficult time to be a priest and religious. The Church is being humbled. The body of Christ, the Church, individuals, have been harmed by the actions of some bishops, priests and religious. As faithful Catholics let us continue to support those who have said yes to God’s call and who faithfully serve the people of God.
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